My memories…

One of the areas I’ve been challenged the most in is my memory. I have been struggling with my memory. At first I thought maybe its just a simple thing but it has kept me bound for a while. Its been one of the things the enemy has been using to devalue my self-worth.

I am very easily disoriented , like seriously your girl got lost in an area that I know very well, right on camp street, Georgetown, Guyana. I remember walking out of the mall and everything was in the opposite direction. The buses were going the wrong way, I was standing on the wrong side of the road, at least that’s how I felt. I really didn’t know what was going on. Lets not talk about here in the USA, I’ll just say it’s very hard getting around.  My attention to detail is minimal, if I see you and I don’t consciously make an effort to remember what you’re wearing, if someone asks me to describe your outfit I won’t be able to. I’d be having a conversation with you and lose my entire train of thought. Or if I’m retelling an event I won’t remember the order in which things happen or I’d either forget parts of what had happened. I remember faces sometimes but I won’t remember where or how I know that face. I’d just finish reading a passage and can’t tell you one thing I’ve read unless I read it two or three times. Yep the struggle is real.

I don’t necessarily want to be a preacher but I do want to be able to defend the gospel and spread it to as much persons as possible. But I often recoiled from doing it because of the fear of not remembering the verses or where it’s taken from.  In order  to quote scriptures I’d have to be reading it, or I’d have to rephrase it.  Sad right? 

Will I let this stop me, though? The old me would be sinking in depression but though I am weak I serve a God who is strong. So if I have to read every scripture in order to spread the gospel, that’s what I will do. I write a lot because it helps me to remember my thoughts, it keeps me focused. So if I have to write about God to let people know about him, thats what I will do. I’ll serve Him right where I’m at, with what I have.

I get so Jealous when I hear people reciting passages from the bible while I struggle to remember one verse. Oh how I wish I could be able to remember stuff like that.  Yes it hurts, it hurts like crazy. I’ve never really spoken about it before because I was afraid I’d be seen as an invalid. But I realize now its ok that you know my weaknesses because it is in my weakness that God’s strength is made perfect. Therefore I will rather boast in my weakness, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. As “my Pastor” 🙂  said we serve the God of the impossible , so when we’re faced with situations we have no control over , it’s time to rejoice because the God that we serve is more than able. He specializes in miracles. We get to show off our God. 2 Corinthians 12:9

Boasting in my weaknesses allows my faith to become stronger. When I do overcome obstacles, weaknesses and trials, I know it is not I who did it but Christ’s power working in and through me. 

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So if you’re using your inabilities to deter you from living and working for Christ, stop it. That’s no excuse , what you’re unable to do, God is able! He’s ALL POWERFUL! Give that weakness to God, rest it entirely at His feet. God  you do what you alone can, turn my mess into a message, use my weakness to show forth your perfect strength . Let that be our prayer every time the enemy uses our weakness as a weapon to cripple us.

Comparisons

Colossians 3:23-24  Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.

Truth be heard, we may never be the best at anything, that’s just reality. But does that mean we can’t be great? Ponder on that for a moment. Most times we’re seeking to achieve the title of “the best”, fighting to surpass everyone in the race. We miss out on simply being great.

The harsh truth is, whatever we do we can be assured that there just might be someone who does it ten times better. Will we let that hinder us from achieving greatness? Who ever said we can’t all be great? Some selfish person I bet… Sometimes I abhor the measures and guidelines society sets for us to follow. We are all unique in our own way, yet we have to follow general, one track guidelines in order to meet the criteria of being the best. Whose rules are we allowing ourselves to be governed by? Society or God? Lets face it, people will always try to measure your worth and give you titles as they see fit.Which by the way are mere opinions of fellow human beings. But I have great news, we do not have to accept them, we do not have to live by them. We have a choice, we can either accept what society may deem us or we can break free and be unapologetically who God called us to be!

This is how I believe we can be great at whatever we do. Develop a tunnel vision, lets not compare ourselves with others. Let’s not try to be like anyone else but Christ. Focus on what you’re doing, put your best foot forward and endeavor to make God proud, not men. Colossians 3:23-24

What can we do as members of society? Start appreciating people for their efforts. Don’t put on your judgmental goggles to start comparing them with others. See that person as the individual they are and value what he/ she has to offer. Don’t be like ahhh he could sing but his sister does a better job. No no no no no! He can sing! That’s it!!! Leave it right there!!! Do not add another word!!!!

Let’s strive to be great!!!

We all can be great!!!

What’s the best? Ain’t nobody got time for that!! lol

Never Again!

There has been countless times in the past I ended up drifting away from God. Thinking, maybe I can get by just fine without Him. He’s taking too long to come through for me anyways… Waiting is not something I do very well. Like for real, it’s like I start to twitch when I have to wait. I really dislike waiting so I would try to conquer that by always managing my time well. I love to plan ahead, get things sorted, put things in place, just so I wouldn’t have to wait. I tried not to keep people waiting so they would always think when the situation is reversed, Karmel is always early so don’t let me keep her waiting, but it seldom worked. 

When I’m hit with an uncontrollable situation where I have to wait, I’d start to have a panic attack. This is not how it was supposed to go, I planned everything step by step, or it needed to be completed by such and such time so that I can do this in order for me to get that.. *big sighs*. God I asked you to let this go accordingly. *bigger sigh*

In actuality I was trying to control my own life. I didn’t trust God even though I would say I do. I wanted God to do things my way. When he didn’t it would put distance between us. Why should I even pray when God doesn’t even listen? *eye rolling*

Most of my drifting has always been because I didn’t like to wait. Ok I’m done with God, I’m going to do this my way. And guess what happens… Yea you guessed it, I’d make things so much worse. If I had just waited in the first place, it wouldn’t have turned out like this. Taking things into my own hands was a way of telling God I can do a better job than He could.

As a teenager I asked God to teach me how to wait. How I wished I could take back that prayer. I never thought I’d still be getting lessons up until today.  I’d failed so many lessons and I wanted God to give me a free pass. Just put me to the other level forget about that prayer I made so long ago. But God is faithful to His promises.

No matter how much I try to stay on top of things, I still have to let go and trust God. I’m learning that now. Every time I take matters into my own hand it gets crazy. So as I journey with Christ I’m letting go, letting go of all my anxieties and worries, my dreams and aspirations. God really does know best. Looking back on my life I have so many ahhhhh moments. Oh God that’s why you allowed that to happen? WOW!!! Seeing the things God was trying to keep me from and understanding why he allowed certain to happen, that scripture comes to mind All things work together for good…

Never again!!! Will I try to take God out of the picture. Never again!!! Will I walk away from Him. Being far away from God is the last thing I want to do. Now that I know what being close to Him feels like. I never want to leave.

There’s a peace in my soul when I’m with Him!

Even in the storm He’s going to see me through!

 

The power of QT

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Yesterday was an amazing day! Its one of my husband’s days off. I enjoy when he’s home. Lets stay home forever babe… We had a “little” outing to the zoo but it left such an indelible mark on my heart and my memory. There isn’t anything in particular I can pinpoint that I enjoyed the most it was just being there with Him, having fun, seeing him making crazy videos, the little conversations, oh and posing for pictures, it was pure bliss.

Well of course we annoyed each other for brief moments like when I wanted to go see for myself what’s at the end of the line and my husband just wanted me to take his word for it. Man just leave me alone na! Or when my husband was protecting me from being run over by human beings and he insisted on saying move to the right 500 times. Thanks my husband for looking out for me!!!

The train rides, stopping on the way to get ice cream, watching each other mess ourselves up (with ice cream that is), shivering under the cold Ac in the busses.  We laughed our heads of when we got home, well I did most of the laughing. But the point is don’t take the little things for granted. Honestly I feel like I love him a little bit more because of the quality time we spent with each other. As simple as it may sound I wouldn’t trade it for anything else in the world. Those are the moments that matter.

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New to the married life, I’m realizing that it’s the little intentional, sweet efforts we make that will keep the fire burning (and yes I’ve heard the fire can go out and it dies most times too). We cannot expect the marriage to grow if we don’t take the weeds out, give it some sunlight, water and proper soil. Make intentional efforts to cause your relationship to flourish. For too long the world has been comparing their relationships to Christians saying “things like a good live home is better than a broken marriage, or Christian couples don’t give me hope when they look like they’re only together because they don’t want a divorce, they look like they’re just enduring each other “. Yes those things are actually being said about christian marriages. Believe it or not we are being watched by the world and our youths. Let’s remember our lights have to shine in our relationship too. So lets shine them lights, yeah?

Let’s remember our wedding vows and work towards making this “till death do us part” thing be the best thing ever!

May God bless Our Unions!!!

Cheers to the married peoples!!!

 

Marriage: Conflict and Conflict Resolution

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My mom is so quiet, I always saw how peaceful she was. I hardly heard my mom raising her voice or getting into an argument, this was amazing to me. But me on the other hand… I wish to be like my mom. She’s one of my role models. When I’m upset I tend to want the whole world to be upset too. I remember when I was younger if I had an argument I always went for the hit below the waist / belt (whatever they say in boxing). I wanted to hit to damage. I endeavored to change but I realized that I still have some traits peeping up in my marriage.

Well my husband is the opposite of me where it comes to arguments. I want to yell and get upset and stay mad in my corner, glare, and don’t talk even when he tries to talk. Then when he doesn’t say anything I run away with the idea that he’s not bothered probably because he doesn’t care. Then I get upset all over again. While my husband readily forgives and is eager to move forward.

I’ve always heard people say don’t ever assume a man can read your mind because he just can’t. No matter how much you try to reason it out, it’s just not a part of his make-up. Now me on the other hand I can add two and two together and it gives me four every time. If he does this then it must be that or if he says that then he wants this. Simple as that but, noooo the man doesn’t  add patterns, or actions or nothing…. just kidding.

I remember one of the most common wedding advice we got was “you must learn to communicate, communication is key to making a marriage or any relationship work”. And it’s one of the best advice. A lot of our actions and words can be misread many times because as simple as it may be to you, our minds process things differently. This brings in to play our back ground, our exposure, our culture etc. All these things have to be taken into consideration when we’re dealing with another human being.

So the middle ground we came up with is to check in with  each other monthly or whenever necessary. To talk about things, things that we don’t like, things we wish to change, things we like and wish to remain the same. No hard feelings, we must say exactly how we feel. So that in the future we will know what we need to work on or continue doing.

Is it working ? Yes, but we have to make a conscious effort to remember the things that offend. Is it hard? Very, habits are hard to break especially when we think we’re grown. But its worth it!!!

We’ll be with each other for a lifetime so we have to do our best to make it happy and peaceful. So as much as it gives me satisfaction when I let him have it, I have to take a step back and reconsider how this will affect us ten years down the road. When we have children how will we teach our children respect when we don’t respect ourselves.

What we do now can have lasting positive or damaging effects on our marriage.

We’re going to nip it in the bud!!!

God Help us on our journey!!!

Life of a warrior

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Stop sugar-coating christianity!!! Straight up, this journey is not an easy one, but is it worth it? Yes absolutely! Worth every sacrifice. We have to build soldiers that are battle ready. Like the 300 chosen soldiers in Gideon’s army who lapped the water like dogs. We have become too thin-skinned not able to withstand little offenses.

The Christian walk will be filled with constant sacrifices we have to make. Constant tough decisions to make. The bible says “ Because strait is the gate and narrow is the way which leads unto life, and few there be that find it”.Matt 7:14 The word “strait” means a situation specified by a degree of difficulty or trouble. This shows us we have to be prepared for the troubles to come. They shouldn’t come to us by surprise. We have to keep our minds ready AT ALL TIMES for battle. The enemy will fight as long as it takes to win our soul, that’s why we need to stay focussed.

No, all your dreams may not be accomplished especially if it doesn’t line up with God’s plan for you. There may be times when we will lose everything like Job, will we still stand firm in the faith or are we going to give up? We should be prepared to lose it all for the sake of Christ, be ready to say for it is the Lord that gives and the Lord that taketh away, Blessed be the name of the Lord, Job 1:21 .

We need to be more deliberate with our walk in Christ. Our children need to see consistency, self-control and dedication. We cannot show the world one thing then our lives are totally wrecked behind closed doors. If we say we trust God then that’s what we ought to demonstrate at all times. This world is not getting easier for  us much less our children to grow up in. Our desire should be to influence the next generation to be the best warriors for Christ , to raise up righteous seeds that will rise up and bear fruits throughout the world. Instead of training our children to put priority on the secular things lets train them to make decisions that would impact the kingdom of Christ for generations to come. We ought to change our mindset. We are not of this world and therefore we are not entitled to the things of this world.

So lets put on the armor of God and be battle ready at all times! Ephesians 6:11-18

Im a soldier in God’s Army

What is my purpose?

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    For so long I’ve idolized the word “purpose” and what it means to have purpose. I was so obsessed with knowing what’s this special thing I possess that God has created only me to fulfill. Needless to say this quest for purpose frustrated me a lot, a whole lot. Especially those times when I thought I figured it out but me being me was always seeking for confirmation and affirmation from others, didn’t get it so I had to be wrong. At times I gave up the search.

    I remember for years I searched and prayed about finding my purpose. God would you reveal to me the special reason you created me for. I don’t recall what triggered it but I had a light bulb moment, which really shouldn’t have been one. It should’ve been a “what else did you think it would be?” moment or “what took you so long?” moment.

    Anyhoo!!!! I found my purpose. Yayyy! I know why God created me. As simple as it may sound I really do believe it’s of utmost importance. I was created to shine my light. Every single thing I do has purpose.

    For years this purpose thing has been so mysterious to a lot of us… ooh bro/ sis you need to find your purpose. People go thinking its some astronomical, complex thing, they take forever to figure it out. It’s not that hard my bro/sis. Its really not that hard.

    As a matter of fact the first thing we should instill in new-born Christians is what their purpose is, instead of letting them go roaming for something they have no idea how to find. Let them know their main purpose is to spread the good news of Christ.

    Although this is just my opinion, I believe it is vital that when new believers come to Christ that they know their purpose is to win souls for Christ. So with everything that is done we do it to shine our light. Contrary to what you may have heard, we each have the same purpose and that is to spread the gospel of Christ. Though the purpose is the same we will have different unique ways of fulfilling that purpose. Whether we sing, dance, preach, write, teach, draw it should all lead you back to fulfilling that one purpose we each have. 

    Now instead of trying to find that purpose think of what unique spin you can add to spreading the gospel of Christ. What me-ness can I add? That’s where your personality and individuality comes to play. 

   Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father which is in heaven. Mt 5:16

We each have Purpose!!!

I’m so tired of being a failure!

Ughhhhh!!!!!! Why do I keep making the same mistakes over and over again? I know it makes me feel sick to my stomach every time. Yet I find myself in the same ditch. What tops it off, is each time I fail, I drift further and further away from God. I can’t find the strength to face God. He must be so tired of me.

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Have you ever found yourself in this position before? Messed up yet another time and you don’t know what to do. You tell yourself well I don’t want God to think I’m bare-faced so you walk in the other direction, turning your back on the only one who can strengthen or help you.  And who do you go to? “A friend”  you lay all your burdens on that friend. Who can’t offer any real solution to your problem.

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Isn’t it ironic that we say with our mouths that God is our friend but when placed in a situation to prove it, we leave God out of it, pushing Him aside, as if He’s least of our concern? How often do we say God is my refuge and my strength, my strong tower, He is my help and my fortress? Then in the same breath we question and doubt God. 

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I believe the devil cracks himself up every time we go back on our words. As a matter of fact he eggs us on to leave God out of the equation. He wants us to think that God will banish us forever. Now isn’t the God we serve all-knowing? He knew us before we were formed, He knows our ins and outs, ups and downs. Don’t you think that mistake you made, He knew you would’ve made it? (Hmmm? Something to think about right?) But still God saved you and He’s willing to save you over and over again. He’s not willing that any should perish but that all should have eternal life.

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So the next time you find yourself on the floor sinking in your failures, let God be your friend, let Him be your refuge, your strong tower, your helper, your provider. Tell him just what you would have confided in “that friend”.  He can actually help you. He’s not your refuge for the strong times but in those times when you have nowhere else to run to, He’s right there. Let’s challenge ourselves today to really make God our friend. 

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Labels doesn’t have to define you!

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Who do people say you are? Who do you say you are?

What labels are people giving to you? What labels are you giving to yourself? I know it can be very easy to accept the opinions of men as facts about your life or even your own opinions. The labels can be dumb, average, a C student, weird, a misfit, good for nothing, irresponsible, unreliable, untalented and the list goes on. But, I’ve got awesome news for you. You don’t have to accept and wear those labels. They cannot determine your potentials only God can. Do not wear those labels like a badge.

Only God can determine your potential

Who would have imagined  Saul would have been one of the greatest Apostles in history, judging from His past? NOBODY!!! He persecuted the people of God, sentencing them to be killed. How horrible… I bet his nickname was murderer.  He even said ” For I am the least of the apostles and do not even deserve to be called an apostle, because I persecuted the church of God.” 1 Corinthians 15:9. But God wasn’t concerned. It goes to show nobody but God has the power to determine who you will be or what your name will be. How about the woman with the issue of blood. She was not allowed to be amongst the rest of society because they deemed her unclean. Can you imagine how those people in the crowd looked at her or treated her when the recognized who it was that was touching them… But even in her state Jesus saw value in her. He saw pass the mess and he saw her for who she could be.

What labels?

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Be Free from Labels

Forget labels whether you gave them to yourself or people gave them to you. Instead, remind yourself of what God says about you. 1 Peter 2:9 But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. Deuteronomy 28:13 The LORD will make you the head, not the tail. If you pay attention to the commands of the LORD your God that I give you this day and carefully follow them, you will always be at the top, never at the bottom. 

Jeremiah 29:11 ,Proverbs 3: 5-6Philippians 4: 6-7

 

 

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