Getting married?

A few things to know before getting married

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  • Be so passionate about God that even if you were to remain single you would be fine. Know God and love God. Be complete in yourself, do not look for someone to complete you. 

  • Know your worth; love yourself, build your self-confidence, believe in yourself. You deserve nothing less than the best. Ain’t nothing worse than an insecure individual, it sucks the life out of any relationship. 

  • Give your list to God, make sure your desires are in line with what God wants. Make sure your list prioritizes the things that will matter in the long run.

  • Let your past experiences guide you in choosing your spouse. Don’t make the same mistakes over and over again. If a particular trait didn’t work the first two times most definitely it wouldn’t work the third time around. Be wise! Recognize recurring negative signs!

  • Things wouldn’t always go as planned; loneliness may step in, hormones will rage. Keep yourself occupied and make sure you stay focused on your goals.

  • Ask God to help you to choose the right person. Pray for discernment. Pray that those with ill intentions will be steered clear from you and that you would know when you’ve met the right person.

  • Don’t be scared to state your intentions and your expectations. 

  • Make sure you’re on the same page especially where your relationship with God is concerned. Do not be unequally yoked! Get someone who can be strong enough to lift you up in your weak moments and vice versa.

  • Be yourself, be fun and confident!

  • If it’s been years and you can’t decide whether you’re ready to get married then you might just not be ready.

  • Long courtships don’t necessarily mean you’ll know the person better. You have to trust God with that part of your future, some people are great at hiding things. Pray for God to reveal all the deal breakers before you tie the knot.

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Life is like a rollercoaster!

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That’s a familiar saying isn’t it? Life has its ups and its downs. Some days are good and some days are not so good. That’s life eh! Can you guess what kind of day I’m having? It’s one of those days, one of those not so good days. It’s like I’m being hit by reality left, right and center. But reality ain’t got nothing on my God! God can and will turn things around.

What should I do to combat these feelings that I’m having on this not so good day? I’ll Go to my manual for everyday living, that’s what I’ll do.

Here are some scriptures we can read when we need that extra boost of encouragement :

  • Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid, do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.
  • Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.
  • 2 Corinthians 1:3-4  Praise be to the God and father of our Lord Jesus Christ. The Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all of our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
  • Isaiah 41:10  So do not fear, for I am with you, do not be dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
  • Psalms 46:1-3   God is our refuge and our strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging
  • 2 Timothy 1:7 God did not give us a spirit of fear but of power, love, and a sound mind.
  • Psalms 55: 22 Cast your cares on the Lord and He will  sustain you; He will never let the righteous be shaken.
  • Psalms 119:50 My comfort in my suffering is this ; Your promise preserves my life.
  • Psalms 120:1 I call on the Lord in my distress, and He answers me.
  • Romans 8:38-39 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers,  neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord

As I read those verses I literally felt the burdens being lifted off of me. Thank God for the power of His word.

When you’re feeling downcast and burdened go to your manual for everday living, the word of God.

He’s faithful!

Faith is hard!

It’s not as easy as it sounds. Many people say it so casually “you need to have faith” without telling you that it takes hard work. So some people run away with the idea that it’s easy, and become overly discouraged when they are hit with the reality, that having faith can be very hard.

Have you ever made up in your mind that you were going to put your faith and trust in Gods word but then doubt steps in and whoops there goes all your plans to believe. This has happened to me so often. It can be a real struggle especially if you’re accustomed to having your doubt overrule everything in your life.

You have to be prepared to put in the work and work overtime as well. Doubt creeps in so easily sometimes and it seems almost natural to believe the doubts. But having faith takes us consistently and consciously fighting against the doubt and praying for the strength to believe in the promises of God. It’s saying, God right now it’s so easy to doubt but give me the strength to believe in you.

Your doubts will be so loud at times it’ll take all you have to muster the courage to pray. It’s all about changing your habits. We all know how hard it is to get rid of an old habit. Mindfully making the decision to ignore your doubts and pray to God for his strength to believe in His word.

I need you to know it’s not going to be easy, so be prepared to fight through your doubts and reach out to God to help your unbelief and He will! Before you know it, your new habit will be trusting in God and ignoring the doubts.

Your faith will be enriched!

Just Keep relying on God’s strength!

Dad’s presence

Today’s is my father’s 65th birthday. Happy birthday daddy! I just wanted to share 4 things I admire most about my dad.

1. Daddy as a strong leader, looking back I have never seen a moment my father looked weak or incapable of doing anything. He was well respected in the home and the community.

2. Daddy as the most intelligent man I know, from English to Biology, Psychology, Theology you name it daddy knows it. My father had a mini library in his bedroom and he read all of those books. Not only that, he can remember what he read too. Wow! I would always try to pick his brains just because I’m amazed at all the things he knows.

3. My dad as provider, daddy always worked hard to provide for us. Even though we’re all grown he still makes sure he set aside some of his groceries for his children, we appreciate you. He made sure we always got what we needed growing up. He would tell stories of times when things were really hard and they didnt know where our next meal would come from but I have never seen that side. Bills taken care of, food taken care of, roof over our head, shoes on our feet, clothes on our back. He made sure our birthdays and Christmases were special, we always looked forward to receiving our gifts from.

4. Daddy as my spiritual leader and example. Daddy was very disciplined and consistent in his faith. Never once did I have to worry if daddy still believed in God. No matter what may have been going on, he never caused us to doubt his faith in God. Every new school year daddy anointed our heads with oil and prayed for us. Every single Sunday morning we’d have devotions , daddy was showing us that we needed to rely on God for everything. Now we will pass this on to our children. Thank you!

I appreciate you being there for us Daddy! We’re looking forward to many more birthdays!

The favor of the Lord is upon me

What is the favour of the Lord? Some think it’s when things always work according to their plan. I used to think that’s what the favour of the Lord is. I’ve been awaken though, now I believe it is the will of the Lord for our lives perfectly working itself out for our good in God’s way and His timings. This means the favour of the Lord can come in the form of rejection or heartbreaks. It’s not always going to be all butterflies and smiles in the sunlight. Yea, sometimes it will hurt. How can it hurt and still be the favour of God? You’d ask. It’s simple, we believe that God is all knowing and He certainly is. What we may think is best for our lives God knows we’re way off course. So when we ask God for his favour, He does what He knows is best for us. What God knows is always more accurate than what we may think, imagine, calculate and all that stuff.

We’re off to an interview, well prepared. We pray, God I thank you for your favour , which basically means we want to get through with the job, period. If we dont get the job we somehow doubt we have the favour of the Lord upon us.

Can I challenge us to change the way we think? Instead, when we pray for His favour, realise that whichever way it goes it is the favour of the Lord working in that situation. So if you don’t get the job know that God is seeing the bigger picture He knows everything about the future and it happened that way for a reason.

Praying for God’s favour upon your life is putting absolute trust in who God is. You let go of all your ideas and trust that what God does is the best for you. Trust God!

Easier said than done, it is. But can we “challenge” ourselves to really rely on God. Challenge being the operative word. The song writer Donnie McClurkin says it best:
II know that faith is easy when everything is going well
But can you still believe in Me when your life’s a living hell?
And when all the things around you seem to quickly fade away
There’s just one thing I really want to know

Will you let go? (I’ll trust you, Lord)
Will you stand on My word? (I’ll trust you, Lord)
Against all odds will you believe what I have said? (I’ll trust You, Lord)
What seems impossible (I’ll trust You, Lord)
Will you believe? (I’ll trust You, Lord)
Every promise that I made will you receive? (Yes, I will trust You, Lord)
I know how bad it hurt you when that loved one’s life came to an end
And when they had to leave you, you said you’d never love again
But will you trust that I can help you and I’ll never turn away?
Will you trust Me, child, no matter, come what may?
What if it hurts? (I’ll trust You, Lord)
What if you cry? (I’ll trust You, Lord)
What if it doesn’t work out the first time that you try? (I’ll trust You, Lord)
What if you call My name (I’ll trust You, lord)
And you don’t feel Me near? (I’ll trust You, Lord)
Will you believe in Me or will you fear? Oh, my child?
(Yes, I will trust, You Lord)
I will trust
I will trust
I will trust
Oh, oh, oh, oh know that faith is easy when everything is going well

Let us trust in God!

Prayer: Lord help me to trust you wholeheartedly when I pray for your favour.

To die is gain

To a sister in Christ , your time spent here with us was great! I’ve only interacted with you for brief moments and your radiance , your light shone through everytime. I’m absolutely positive that those closest to you were tremendously blessed and will miss you immensely because of how much you’ve touched their lives.

This takes me back to the longest conversation we’ve ever had. It was riddled with your faith in Christ and the great inner strength you possess. I admired that alot. I don’t know how you did it. You were the perfect example of demonstrating peace within the storm.

It makes me think about the little conversations I’ve had with random people, will it leave an impact on them as much as yours did me? Life is definitely not about the big moments but about the little moments that leaves big impact on people’s lives.

For me every time I encountered you, you beamed of hope, joy, you had such a peaceful garment over you. I can’t think of a time I saw you and you look sad or troubled. I admired you!

Even though I’ve only had minimum exposure to you, all I honestly ever saw was Christ in you. You beamed Christ! I know for sure you have had your fare amount of trials and tests but yet if you hadn’t shared that part of your life with me, I would have never known. I believe you finished well. I’m positive those closest to you will attest to this. You ran this race well my sister. Now I can only aspire to leave such an indelible mark on everyone I meet. For them to see Christ in and through me Like I saw Him through you. I admired you.

I mourn with your loved ones but also I’m rejoicing with you because you gained heaven, you gained eternity, the hope and joy in which we live for. Philippians 1:21 says, “For to me, to live is Christ, and to die is gain.”

ENJOY HEAVEN MY SISTER!!!

DEDICATED TO SUZANNE ABIGAIL HOYTE

Thoughts of one of the many lives you’ve impacted. Thank you!

I wish I could’ve said this to your face 😥😪

Your soul will rest in peace!

It’s not too late!!!

I just feel the deep urgency to tell you that God is with you. You might be at the end of your rope ready to give up on everything. But God is right there, please do not give up just yet. You will win if you just keep holding on to Christ. God is close to the brokenhearted and saves those are crushed in the spirit. Don’t be so quick to blame God for your pain, be humble, seek him, cry out to Him and He will see you through.

I know so many are struggling, like really really struggling right now and you don’t know what else to do or which way to turn. My friends please turn to God. King Jesus alone can help you! I promise if you faint not and keep trusting in Him He will see you through. Fight through, the enemy will cheer you on to quit the race but don’t let the enemy win. Its hard but keep pushing, keep pushing, keep pushing. Don’t quit now, don’t give up just yet. Your victory is right around the corner.

You may think you’re the only one struggling but you are not alone. You be the survivor, be the one to say God brought me through, you be the one to tell the that others that it’s possible to make it even when you’re at your lowest. You tell them that there is hope. You keep fighting, do it for the others just like you.

You can make it through!!!!!

You can do it!!!!

Please give it one more try!!!!!

The internet is not all that bad

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It was approaching Christmas in the year 2013. It was my tradition to always spend my Christmas in the country side with my parents. I’ll forever cherish those moments. The last-minute cleaning and shopping. Oh how I loved throwing out old items from my parents cabinet, which they always fret about but I think they secretly thank me for doing it. Cooking and spending time with the family is an all time favorite. Anyway I’ll write about Christmas another time, even though talking about it now is making me super excited about spending my first Christmas alone with my husband. :-). 

This is how it happened, I received a friend request on Facebook on the 3rd December,2013 that changed my life forever. I accepted and the rest is history. ok, ok I’ll let you in on the details. So Dwayne Bagot who happens to be my husband saw this really beautiful full eyed girl on his page. He was stunned at her beauty and said to himself , she is the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen, I must married her. So he clicked on the request button, his heart fluttered as he sent it. Will she ever respond to my request? He thought, she has to for she must be mine foreverrrr. If he tells you otherwise it’s only because he’s shy.

We passed the initial stage, I accepted his request he expressed his gratitude and there marked the beginning of a beautiful friendship. We started off casually checking in on each other. Then graduated to can’t wait to hear from each. We messaged each other every single day, not even exaggerating. 

I remember how he had me waiting just so I could hear his voice for the first time. Boy was I nervous , then it was when we video chatted for the first time. I used to get all dressed up just so we can video chat lol, angled my face so he’d see my cute dimples. The first time we met in person was 6 months after we met online, It was awesomeness! We made it official on the 1st May 2014.

After a few months I just couldn’t take my mind off of this guy who dressed so dapper. He’s a great dresser, ah loved it, I still do! Anyways before I met him I used to write love letters to my future husband telling “him” that I’m waiting for him and I can’t wait to meet him and all that.  I would write letters to God too telling him I met this guy and I think he’s the one. It was so cute, Now I don’t know where those letters are. I need to find them. Wait i think i gave those letters to Him… I hope he still has them. 

Long story short He stuck through with me, never gave up on us for one minute. Even when the distance got so overwhelming, every time I asked him  are you still waiting ? His answer would always be yes I’m still waiting. I’ve never had someone who was so faithful to me and for that I’ll be grateful for a lifetime. 

By the way he was the first guy I introduced to my dad , instead of Dwayne being the nervous wreck I was shaking in my boots, no my sandals, stuttering and all that crazy stuff lol. I’m his wife now and really now the rest is history. 

We Met on Facebook!

Some long distance relationships do work!

The Internet is not all bad after all!

The End

My memories…

One of the areas I’ve been challenged the most in is my memory. I have been struggling with my memory. At first I thought maybe its just a simple thing but it has kept me bound for a while. Its been one of the things the enemy has been using to devalue my self-worth.

I am very easily disoriented , like seriously your girl got lost in an area that I know very well, right on camp street, Georgetown, Guyana. I remember walking out of the mall and everything was in the opposite direction. The buses were going the wrong way, I was standing on the wrong side of the road, at least that’s how I felt. I really didn’t know what was going on. Lets not talk about here in the USA, I’ll just say it’s very hard getting around.  My attention to detail is minimal, if I see you and I don’t consciously make an effort to remember what you’re wearing, if someone asks me to describe your outfit I won’t be able to. I’d be having a conversation with you and lose my entire train of thought. Or if I’m retelling an event I won’t remember the order in which things happen or I’d either forget parts of what had happened. I remember faces sometimes but I won’t remember where or how I know that face. I’d just finish reading a passage and can’t tell you one thing I’ve read unless I read it two or three times. Yep the struggle is real.

I don’t necessarily want to be a preacher but I do want to be able to defend the gospel and spread it to as much persons as possible. But I often recoiled from doing it because of the fear of not remembering the verses or where it’s taken from.  In order  to quote scriptures I’d have to be reading it, or I’d have to rephrase it.  Sad right? 

Will I let this stop me, though? The old me would be sinking in depression but though I am weak I serve a God who is strong. So if I have to read every scripture in order to spread the gospel, that’s what I will do. I write a lot because it helps me to remember my thoughts, it keeps me focused. So if I have to write about God to let people know about him, thats what I will do. I’ll serve Him right where I’m at, with what I have.

I get so Jealous when I hear people reciting passages from the bible while I struggle to remember one verse. Oh how I wish I could be able to remember stuff like that.  Yes it hurts, it hurts like crazy. I’ve never really spoken about it before because I was afraid I’d be seen as an invalid. But I realize now its ok that you know my weaknesses because it is in my weakness that God’s strength is made perfect. Therefore I will rather boast in my weakness, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. As “my Pastor” 🙂  said we serve the God of the impossible , so when we’re faced with situations we have no control over , it’s time to rejoice because the God that we serve is more than able. He specializes in miracles. We get to show off our God. 2 Corinthians 12:9

Boasting in my weaknesses allows my faith to become stronger. When I do overcome obstacles, weaknesses and trials, I know it is not I who did it but Christ’s power working in and through me. 

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So if you’re using your inabilities to deter you from living and working for Christ, stop it. That’s no excuse , what you’re unable to do, God is able! He’s ALL POWERFUL! Give that weakness to God, rest it entirely at His feet. God  you do what you alone can, turn my mess into a message, use my weakness to show forth your perfect strength . Let that be our prayer every time the enemy uses our weakness as a weapon to cripple us.

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